love before sex, or sex before love?

this is quite an interesting topic... saw it at y speak in abscbn.

i caught a few lines from the debaters:

love before sex:

what difference do we have with animals if you have sex without love?

love is commitment and you don't just sleep with people you don't love

sex is done for the purpose of pro-creation, therefore it should be done by people in love, who have pure intentions

sex before love:

sa panahon ngayon, be practical! dapat sex muna nang sex bago mo malaman kung love mo sya (caths says: duh! mukang wala lang syang maisip na masabi haha)

as long as you're responsible for your actions, it's ok

you have to know if you're sexually compatible with your partner before you tie the knots.

wanna hear my thoughts?
i guess, the sex-before-love people are mistaking love for marriage. those are two separate things 'cause you could be in love, but not married, and have sex... fine with me. at least you're in love!

i have nothing against people who are in this kind of relationship, i mean engaging in sex outside marriage, as long as they're responsible enough for their actions and they do the act of "it" inside the walls of love... that's why there's the term making love. =) otherwise, that's called humping haha.

on the other hand, sex without love, as in what? making out with strangers? or people you don't love? is a definite no-no for me.. that's when the animal thing comes in.

lastly, it all depends on each person's discretion and i respect everybody's judgment... that we all perceive what is best and what works for us. and my discretion is: the act itself should be contained inside marriage. limitation? i guess as long as you're not being selfish, it's fine. does this mean though that anything but "that" is ok? hmmm... dilemma! and off-topic. =)