enough

i was hoping i could sleep a little early tonight. i was (as usual) puyat. it's ok it's for a good cause anyway. i was (hopefully) able to uplift somebody's mood. it was a good talk =).

i promised myself i'll sleep at 10 but when i sat down to channel surf for a while, i saw that enough (j. lo's film) is shown on hbo. it's weird 'cause just yesterday, the topic on 3R is about abusive acts. so i thought it might be good to ponder on this... and i just had the urge to comment...

i heard over 3R that abuse could be in any form: physical, sexual, verbal... and anybody who gets a dose of any of those will end up getting emotionally abused. imagine the effects this could have on someone. IMAGINE! nobody has the right to hurt you either physically or verbally. nobody has the right to degrade you, call you names, curse you, pull your hair, call you stupid, harass you, pull your bag, and in the end blame it all on you for PROVOKING HIM.

nobody has the right to shout at you, beat you (as if you were a guy), slap you, spit on you (heck spit? eeew), and in the end blame it all on you for PROVOKING HIM.

being in a private or public scenario isn't an issue. what amount of dignity will be left in your being if you're shouted at or hurt in front of people; worse, in front of people you know?!? just the same, nobody earns the right to abuse someone just because they are in the confines of their homes. and i guess the reason it doesn't stop is because of the "ok-lang-yun-kaya-ko-pa-love-ko-kasi-sya" mentality.

some guys really have the nerves! the usual drama here is: guy gets pissed off, abuses girl, girl helplessly cries, guy becomes so sweet it's sickening, girl forgives and forgets... and the cycle repeats. because somebody allows it to loop - infinite times. if i remember it right, the way to stop an infinite loop is, hit control break... hehe break it!

some women are brave enough to know when enough's enough. i salute them for being courageous fighters. some don't have the guts to quit. well, mga mudra, waiting for a miracle won't do the trick.

the bottom line though is, i guess there are abusers because the abused ones tolerate the abuser's abuse and allow the abusers to continuously abuse them (too much "abuse" in that sentence haha. i've never seen that much "abuse" word used in a sentence). or some people are just too sick to be in a relationship and nothing but professional medical assistance (not love alone) could help.

how to end it? ted faylon used to recite this everyday in hoy gising: "walang mang-aabuso kung walang magpapaabuso" (pero ang nang-aabuso, may topak haha! madugtungan lang e!)